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November 14, 2012

I did a lot of important things this past week.

Things like making Ali a lunch, at his request. I made it and I put it in a bag by the front door, right next to his laptop. And then I threw the untouched lunch away when I got home from work because he forgot it.


Another important thing I did this week? I finally downloaded Instagram.

In addition to wasting food this week, I also did a non-scheduled load of laundry so Maya could wear a particular shirt, I sourced a new dry cleaner because per Ali “The cleaner is destroying my clothes,” and I also endured numerous demos of Ali’s newest toy – the Microsoft Surface.

I did all of these things without sarcastic comments or eye rolls, I might add. Which just proves that although I incessantly complain about how I don’t like doing things for my family, I kind of don’t mind. Most of the time.

I also attended a very cute baby shower. (Not sure what’s going on with this oddly-toned Instagram?)

What I do mind, however, is when I ask a member of my family to do something for me and they don’t flipping move.

Example: Friday Night @ 8:30 pm

Me: Can you do me a favor and find my phone?
Ali: Sure.

A fabulous buffet.

5 minutes goes by and Ali shows no sign of moving. Another 5 minutes and there’s still no sign of movement in the room. With the exception of my blood pressure which has shot up approximately 50 points. Faced with the choice of losing my temper or getting up to find my phone, I get up to find my phone.

Ali gets up at the same time, runs in front of me so he can reach my phone first (because now it’s apparently a race), and says: “You really need to work on your patience you know.”

Cake pops. So pretty.

Yes I do need to work on my patience – no argument there.

But the next time my husband asks me to make a lunch for him I’ll continue to play on the Microsoft Surface. When he complains that he’s getting late for work, I’ll caution him to have patience. Then, when he leaves for the office, I’ll race into the kitchen and make his lunch. That way I can just throw his lunch in the trash before I leave for work instead of after.

Sounds like a plan to me.

93 Comments leave one →
  1. November 14, 2012 1:51 am

    Heh, I think the flu is still going around LA. You could find someone to get it from and revenge-get-sick so they have to do everything else again:)
    But that may be more trouble than making lunch…

    • November 14, 2012 9:13 pm

      A sick husband is definitely the worse-case scenario….

  2. November 14, 2012 3:22 am

    Wow. You DO have a lot of patience. I would have thrown that Surface thing at my husband’s head if he did that to me. Ali better up his A game or at least give you a spa day.


  3. November 14, 2012 3:27 am

    Your plan may have been compromised if Ali has already read this post. That said, I think you do have a lot of patience, especially looking after two kids (Ali and Maya).

    • November 14, 2012 9:15 pm

      Two kids is right…it’s nice that another person acknowledges that.

  4. November 14, 2012 5:06 am

    Just reading about you having to throw away that lunch is making me grit my teeth, and now I’m amazed at how much patience you have!!! The cake is gorgeous and the cake pops look yummilicious!!

    • November 14, 2012 9:16 pm

      Throwing away food just freaks me out…I think I have a phobia about it or something.

  5. November 14, 2012 5:24 am

    The baby shower is adorable! Love all of the yellow. My husband does the same thing – When I ask him to do something and then start to do it myself because hes taken so long (doing nothing) he will race me to do it. I think its because they dont want us saying – you couldnt even do “such and such”.

    • November 14, 2012 9:16 pm

      But of course we say “You couldn’t even do such and such” anyway, right? 🙂

  6. November 14, 2012 5:46 am

    Love the Instagram photos. I used to be on there, but found I was on there so much I had to remove my account!

    It’s funny – don’t you work full-time? And you have to do so many extra things for Ali and Maya. Sigh.

    • November 14, 2012 9:18 pm

      What amazes me are those moms out there who have more than one kid and work full-time AND don’t complain about it. Not sure what I’m missing?

  7. November 14, 2012 5:57 am

    I love Instagram!!! It’s seriously so much fun. I throw away lunches all the time!! But not Chad’s. My children’s. They ask me to pack the lunches and then they either leave them here or the uneaten food comes home in their book bags, mostly untouched (saved the baked goodies), because they decided to buy lunch for whatever reason that day. Because, you know, I didn’t really have anything else to do besides pack up and waste our groceries all morning.

    • November 14, 2012 9:19 pm

      Maya’s school offers lunch for $1. $1! I’m so confused and concerned by that. That’s reason enough for me to pack her lunch every day. And Maya knows she has to eat it!

  8. November 14, 2012 6:02 am

    Oh patience 😉

  9. November 14, 2012 6:30 am

    I love it when I ask Vishnu for some help (which in my defense is not that often) and he says “ok.” And then i just wait. If I wanted his help in 30 minutes, I would ask in 30 minutes. I love him to pieces, but sometimes…I just want to scream “NOWWWW!!!”

    • November 14, 2012 9:20 pm

      I want to scream the same thing…you are not the only one!

  10. November 14, 2012 6:47 am

    I got all giddy when I saw a new post this morning. 🙂

    Sounds like Ali was really toying with your patience to see how far he could push you. It definitely stinks to do so much for people and then when you need something, to have to wait…. and wait and wait some more. When I was married, that happened often and much…. so, I think I get it.

    Anyway, that is a gorgeous cake! Did you bake it?

    Have a great day,

    • November 14, 2012 9:21 pm

      I love that you think I am capable of baking such a cake… 🙂 Unfortunately I did not! But I am totally giddy that you were giddy at a new post. Talk about a compliment!!

  11. hcoving permalink
    November 14, 2012 7:43 am

    Hilarious! Patience is not my forte either and I can so relate to the blood pressure spike that comes when you ask someone to do something and they sit there! Actually, I can feel my blood pressure jumpin just thinking about it.

    • November 14, 2012 9:22 pm

      Sorry to make your blood pressure jump…I’m sure you don’t need any help in that department, considering you have so much on your plate!

  12. roshni permalink
    November 14, 2012 8:03 am

    Is it possible to love and envy at the same time? :). You are one seriously talented woman Ameena. I love the way you write and envy your talent. Now write that book already :))

    • November 14, 2012 9:23 pm

      You are unbelievably sweet…thank you for the amazing compliment!

  13. November 14, 2012 8:11 am

    You have far more patience than I do. I commend you, but I also fully support your revenge strategy.

  14. November 14, 2012 8:19 am

    Looking at those food and delicacies make me hungry (and it’s only 10 AM in here). Work on your patience? Time for a revenge I say! Ha! 😉

    • November 14, 2012 9:24 pm

      While I am not good with patience I am actually much better at revenge!

  15. November 14, 2012 9:10 am

    Look at you, getting all tech savvy! I still don’t have Instagram and have no idea what Microsoft Surface even is. I think the key is to get even more tech gadgets than Ali so you can ask him a billion questions 🙂

    PS: Um, how gorgeous is that shower? I remain in love with that chandelier!

    • November 14, 2012 9:25 pm

      I agree on the chandelier…it is stunning! And I bet if you ask your hubby he’d know what a Microsoft Surface is. 🙂

  16. November 14, 2012 9:26 am

    How this made me laugh. Especially the part of throwing it in the trash before he leaves.

  17. November 14, 2012 10:49 am

    I am so intrigued by cake pops. I’ve seen them all over pinterest but…how do you eat them?! 🙂

    • November 14, 2012 9:26 pm

      I saw people eating them like a lollipop which seems the easiest way to do it. I love the idea!

  18. November 14, 2012 11:10 am

    Good trick to use that patience thing on him. Taste of his own medicine.

  19. November 14, 2012 12:00 pm

    Yea that damn surface. The hubby and I visited the mall and he was busy looking at the thing for 10 mins (30 mins in non geek time) that he totally forgot about me and the baby. AND I had to listen to him talking about how cool it is on the drive back home, while making my mad face. I was hoping he would ask, but he was on a surface high and did not 🙂

    • November 14, 2012 9:29 pm

      30 minutes in non geek time. Surface high. I love it.

      Listening to tech-related stuff can be interminable…

  20. thedelicateplace permalink
    November 14, 2012 12:04 pm

    see…i don’t even try to make nate’s lunch. when we got married, i just told him ‘you’re on your own for food!’ good thing he likes cooking lol. instagram is fun and it’s changed how i take photos…wow that is quite a spread for that baby shower! i am thinking of having a puppy shower when i get my pug 🙂

    • November 14, 2012 9:30 pm

      I wish Ali could cook. Or that I could cook. Or that I enjoyed cooking. None of these are a reality, unfortunately…

  21. November 14, 2012 2:16 pm

    Geez – my husband forgets his lunch and then wonders why he is so hungry when he gets home. Sheesh. Plus, I can’t get over the spread. Beautiful baby shower!

    • November 14, 2012 9:30 pm

      Does he forget to eat? I think it’s hysterical when Ali says that. I find that just so odd?

  22. November 14, 2012 4:49 pm

    Ameena that is so funny because I sware the same thing was happening with my husband he just could not remember that dang lunch, so I decided to stop. It’s just not his thing I guess to take a lunch, which is frustrating at times because we are pretty frugal people, but I guess he’s going to buy lunch everyday.

    The pictures are great. Instagram is fun and I love all of the food pictures. You are always so pretty and well put together also. Ameena I left you a reply on my blog. I want to hear you play piano! And I dont’ think anyone can by lousy at it after taking for ten years. Do you still play or practice? I think that’s great. Talk soon,

    Shauna xoxoxo

    • November 14, 2012 9:32 pm

      I think it makes sense that you stopped because now he’s paying for lunch but at least he isn’t paying for lunch and throwing the one you made him in the trash after work.

      I haven’t played piano in forever. I was never very good at it so that’s a good thing!

  23. November 14, 2012 7:03 pm

    You are so funny! But how about not making it so that you don’t waste food?

  24. November 14, 2012 8:22 pm

    Could he eat the lunch the next day, or would it have gone bad?

    • November 14, 2012 9:33 pm

      Our place gets SO hot that nothing is safe if left out. When in doubt throw it out, right?

  25. November 14, 2012 9:26 pm

    Oooh boy you have A LOT of patience! If I made someone lunch and they didn’t eat it (and didn’t even bother to keep it in the fridge for later), I would flip my sh**! You, my friend, deserve a lot more credit!

    Welcome to the wonderful world of Instagram…do you feel like a professional photographer yet? It’s only a matter of time haha!

    • November 14, 2012 9:34 pm

      I am anything but a good photographer. The great thing about Instagram is that it somehow minimizes the flaws in my poor photos with the fade-effect.

      Does that make any sense? Hope so…

  26. November 14, 2012 11:32 pm

    hahaha damn last two paragraphs cracked me up. Its kinda typical for Tech people to stay lost in the toys when someone tells them to do something. I think they just are like that. LOL you have some patience I tell you though.

    • November 17, 2012 9:17 pm

      Ali is definitely a Tech Person so I suppose I should cut him some slack?

      • November 23, 2012 1:25 pm

        lol but if you do …then it won’t be much fun 😛 …

  27. squigglefloey permalink
    November 15, 2012 12:28 am

    I’ve been sick with heart palpitations and the works…finally caught up on your blog. Hope I’m better soon so I don’t keep missing posts/gorgeous dessert pictures 🙂

    • November 17, 2012 9:17 pm

      Heart palpitations? That sounds ominous…I hope that you are feeling better!

  28. November 15, 2012 3:52 am

    Lol this made me laugh so much Ameena! Again, as usual, you hold a mirror up to my very self as I read about your Ali. He and I still have much to learn I fear!

    • November 17, 2012 9:18 pm

      So glad I could make you laugh. And hopefully help your wife have an easier time in the process… 🙂

  29. November 15, 2012 5:14 am’re such a good wifey.
    Confession: I make my husband’s lunch every day.
    Welcome to the dark side of instagram.

    • November 17, 2012 9:18 pm

      Every day? Really? You are a good wife my friend…definitely not me!!

  30. November 15, 2012 5:50 am

    That cake is seriously beautiful!! Welcome to instagram– it’s freakin’ addictive!!!

    • November 17, 2012 9:19 pm

      So far I am not addicted but I think it’s because I don’t really know how to properly use it! I need a quick lesson.

  31. November 15, 2012 6:40 am

    Too funny! The cake is adorable! I haven’t tried Instagram. I think it’s only for smartphones. Mine isn’t very smart… 😉

    • November 17, 2012 9:19 pm

      If it makes you feel any better, mine isn’t very smart either…and it’s considered a smart phone.

  32. November 15, 2012 12:43 pm

    Oh I would have lost it if I had to toss out an untouched lunch. I, too, hate wasting food. In fact, I was at a friend’s house this week who doesn’t “do” leftovers. There was 1/2 of a pizza that we didn’t eat and I watched as she threw it. in. the trash. I almost leaped across the room to save the pizza but decided at the last minute that it might be too weird…Exercising some patience there. 😉

    • November 17, 2012 9:20 pm

      My God I would have freaked out. And I would have taken it home! How does one not eat leftovers?

  33. November 15, 2012 3:15 pm

    Oh the patience comment. I used to accept it because, like you, I am not the world’s most patient person. You know what though? Maybe those accusing us of being impatient just keep that word in their back pocket and know they can bother us as much as they want and then just dangle “be patient, you’re so impatient.” I am on the fence about instagram but leaning in that direction. I’ll send you photos of my husband being annoying.

    • November 17, 2012 9:21 pm

      “I’ll send you photos of my husband being annoying.” Oh Lauren…that would make my YEAR!! Hope to see you next week in NYC.

  34. November 15, 2012 6:56 pm

    As you know I am a fellow hater of food-wasting, this we share so I totally empathize with you on that one. I am not naturally a patient person but I have grown to be (thank goodness) and luckily my kids are very helpful because I pretty much ask them to do everything. Well, not everything, but I always crack up that I can’t move from the couch to get the phone but yet I ran 6 miles that morning. Does that make sense?

    • November 17, 2012 9:32 pm

      I have the same problem. I can go for a walk for hours but then somehow I can’t seem to move when Maya wants me to put her to bed. Funny how that works!

  35. November 16, 2012 9:23 pm

    The events you attend always most the most delicious food…at least that’s what I assume when I look at the pictures. And patience is irrelevant when a phone is involved. The phone is essential, and Ali should understand that considering how ridiculous he is about technology. Make sure he knows I said that. ALI, YOU ARE RIDICULOUS WITH TECHNOLOGY.

    Anyway, I’ve been getting ready to go on this family trip to Orlando, and I’ve been thinking that you’d be the perfect travel companion. We could be snarky and enjoy fantastic food, and I could make you read one of my favorite books and you could do the same to me. It would be wonderful. And if nothing else, we’ll just keep doing all of that through the internet. 😛

    • November 17, 2012 9:33 pm

      I fear, my friend, that your taste in books is far too advanced for my Sidney Sheldon/mainstream author loving self. But yes, I can be snarky and enjoy fantastic food with no problem at all.

      Have the best time in Orlando! I went there once, years ago. Epcot was definitely an interesting place!

  36. November 17, 2012 3:05 pm

    Haha! My dad does exactly the same thing as Ali and takes mum’s temper on roller-coaster rides 😛

    • November 17, 2012 9:35 pm

      This mum’s temper is constantly on a roller-coaster ride. 🙂

  37. November 18, 2012 12:10 am

    This was wonderful- I’m laughing so loud- better quiet down before I wake up hubby!!!! At least I remembered not to be drinking a hot drink while reading your blog- I’ve made that mistake before and ended up spewing the liquid all over the place as I can’t stop myself from laughing!!!

    Great to read you again!!

    • November 19, 2012 9:22 pm

      It’s great to see a comment from you again! So glad I could make you laugh.

  38. seana permalink
    November 18, 2012 9:59 am

    “Sure” is the most annoying word to me. I ask my kids if they want something. “Sure” is the response. Like I’m doing them a favor, Whatever happened to “Yes,please?” Ali’s use is different in context but it just reminded me how much I hate the word 🙂

    • November 19, 2012 9:22 pm

      I am so with you on “sure.” I feel like people in general use it in a totally wrong context. It puzzles me…

  39. November 18, 2012 5:45 pm

    Hola. This was funny.. the same thing happens when I ask my husband to “please” take out the trash.. he just sits there, and then after 5 minutes I start doing it, and he comes running over and is like, I said I’ll do it, have patience. WHATEVER!
    Ameena, I’m so sad we’re going to miss each other again. You came around the same time last year.. will respond to your email tonight. I can’t wait to see what places you scope out in NYC this time… of course, TAO. I love your lists, they help me decide on places.
    Have fun!!!

    • November 19, 2012 9:23 pm

      I’m sad we’ll miss each other again too! I think we are going to skip Tao this time and try some new places….including Devi, which I think you suggested!

      • November 20, 2012 11:38 pm

        Devi is good, and Tamarind is good too. Maybe Tamarind is better, I downgraded Devi to a 4. 🙂 If you’re staying around Midtown, Amma is suppose to be really good, a couple friends have said, I haven’t been. Let me know.. i can’t wait to see where you go.

  40. November 18, 2012 6:14 pm

    Obviously– my invite got lost in the mail to that exquisite shower. Omgggg, who made the stunning cake? YOU? Xxxx Superb.

    • November 19, 2012 9:23 pm

      I wish I made that cake! Not in a million years would that be possible, unfortunately.

  41. November 19, 2012 11:31 am

    You have more patience than I do. My poor husband will probably starve to death before he finds me making his lunch. I’m just not that nice of a person, I’ve accepted it. 🙂

  42. caloricandcrazy permalink
    November 19, 2012 6:44 pm

    Wow, that buffett looks extravagant! Loving the platter of berries and the cake pops! 😀

    • November 19, 2012 9:24 pm

      The buffet was really pretty…the hosts did an amazing job!

  43. rads permalink
    November 19, 2012 9:19 pm

    Hi Ameena

    I have recently started reading your blog and I am loving it!!! I read almost all the articles in just a week. Maya is sooo cute and you have a lovely family. I only wish you could write more articles..

    всего хорошего

    • November 19, 2012 9:25 pm

      Hi Rads…you are so kind to leave such a nice comment. Thank you! And thank you for reading!

  44. November 22, 2012 9:20 pm

    I am often distracted by how gorgeous you look. I am shallow I know.

    • November 24, 2012 11:54 am

      You are unbelievably kind my friend. Thank you.

  45. November 29, 2012 6:45 pm

    I HATE it when my husband tells me I need to work on my patience…even if it true. What does he know? He needs to work on his ability to get off his as$ and do what I ask him to. So there.

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