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June 6, 2011

If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

I ask myself this question all the time. Far too often actually. And while I’d love to say something admirable like I want to be a better wife or a more patient mom, my 100% honest answer is far more shallow:

I really just want 20/20 vision.

The truth is that I feel absolutely hideous with my glasses on. Hideous! I have a rather small face and I think glasses – no matter the style, the brand, or the color – look huge on my small face.

So to avoid having a complex about my glasses I wear contacts. But those little plastic discs, aka tiny torture devices, make my eyes hurt most of the time.  This shouldn’t surprise me seeing as plastic probably doesn’t belong in my eye…and yet I stupidly find myself surprised.

I wish I was in Paris...with perfect eyesight.

Anyway, I was feeling especially ugly the other day and needed reassurance. I asked Ali, “Do you think I look ugly with my glasses?” Ali glanced up from his computer, threw me a cursory “no,” and went right on typing. 

Let’s be honest here, Ali probably wouldn’t notice if I suddenly developed a third eye on my forehead. So really, asking him was an exercise in futility. After that useless exchange I realized I either have to embrace my glasses or I have to deal with eyes as dry as the Sahara desert.

We can put a man on the moon but we can’t make Lasik 100% risk-free? I don’t get it.

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  1. June 6, 2011 12:29 am

    I feel your pain and frustration. I wore glasses for what felt like forever! When I turned 21 I went for the Lasik surgery and have had wonderful glasses free eyesight since then (i’ll be 30 this year). Personally, its the best thing I ever did. 🙂

  2. June 6, 2011 1:58 am

    Excuse me while I adjust my specs, there. I love my glasses. Ever since I learned a little hint. There are numbers inside on the ear pieces. If you have the distance between your pupils measured then that number is approximately what the number on the glasses should be, plus or minus 10 or something like that. Find a good optician. And then buy yourself 4 pairs in different colours. Embrace the blindness!!!

  3. June 6, 2011 2:36 am

    If I could change one thing about myself I would probably give myself bigger breasts. See I am probably even more shallow than you. I wouldn’t want huge porn star ones just bigger than the preteen ones I am sporting now.

    I got nothing about your glasses problem, sorry no sage words of wisdom.

    Oh and I think I have made up for your lack of yellling at Maya with my ear piercing screams at my three this week. Some weeks you got it and some weeks you don’t.

  4. June 6, 2011 2:57 am

    Ha (not ha! about your glasses which look really pretty) I blogged about 2 of my less-than-ideal qualities today. I decided I’m shallow and selfish but not sure that’s going to change. My husband doesn’t notice a whole lot but food in my teeth, too much make up, anything that is an obvious flaw he notices. Why don’t we talk about what we’d change in our husbands?

    • June 6, 2011 11:55 am

      Well Lauren that would be a very, very long post. Very long.

  5. June 6, 2011 3:03 am

    The idea of lasik really skeeves me out. Having them come at my eye with blades and sticking things in it just sounds horrific. I can barely do eye drops…

  6. June 6, 2011 3:10 am

    Agree! I wear contacts but there’s no way I’m doing LASIK. I’ve heard too many bad stories.

  7. June 6, 2011 3:26 am

    I’ll take the perfect vision too. I’m blind as a bat!

    What I really hate about contacts is that sheer blue rim they leave around your iris. It bugs me so much!

  8. bakebooks permalink
    June 6, 2011 3:45 am

    I’m sure you look beautiful with glasses. I’ve always secretly wanted uber-chic glasses to be the blaze girl strolling down the street…of course in that vision I am also in NYC and wearing beautiful girls, etc….

    • June 6, 2011 11:56 am

      Funny how I’m usually in NYC in one of my visions as well…

  9. June 6, 2011 3:58 am

    I hear you Ameena! Contacts don’t usually bug my eyes per se (though I had problems a few years back) but they are just annoying! One extra thing to do in the morning, at night, to pack…..ug. My bf has perfect vision and I am super jealous.

    PS in regards to the sweetest comment ever that you left me – I am blessed with a pretty good metabolism (and always, always thankful for it) BUT I do work out too. The blog just doesn’t see that kinda stuff (Boring!) haha.

    • June 6, 2011 11:57 am

      Ali also has nearly perfect vision. I’ve asked him if given a choice would he trade with me? I got another blank stare.

  10. June 6, 2011 4:27 am

    As a kid I wanted glasses and braces SO badly. Yea, don’t ask me why! Got the braces and never the glasses, thank God!

  11. June 6, 2011 4:40 am

    Haha– your answer isn’t as shallow as mine– I’d just want boobs. Seriously. 🙂

    Maybe in a few years they’ll have the operation perfected…

  12. June 6, 2011 4:45 am

    Aw! I found contacts a necessity when I first needed glasses as a teenager. I also happened to be a cheerleader and my glasses kept falling off my face from sweat while I cheered. So, I just got used to the contacts. I think maybe if you changed your frames, you’d like your glasses more. You said your face was small, so maybe a light colored wire rimmed frame would help.

    • June 6, 2011 11:58 am

      I have black frames, light brown frames, and dark brown frames. Unfortunately I feel hideous in all of the above.

  13. June 6, 2011 5:11 am

    I bet you look beautiful in glasses, 3rd eye or not 😉

  14. June 6, 2011 5:20 am

    Omg. Once again you said exactly how I feel. I have very poor eyesight. I often dream about waking up one day and all of a sudden I can see without my glasses. Then I open my eyes, and the world is all blurry again. I haven’t taken the surgery yet because of the risk. I also wonder 1. Why they can’t come up with a cure for morning sickness, 2. Why are all the vitamin pills so friggin huge!

  15. June 6, 2011 5:44 am

    Let’s trade! My vanity comes in where I WANT glasses. I love the way they look! But I think it is stupid to wear them for fashion purposes only.

    I’ll take your specs and you can take mine. I’ll rock the best designer wear and then you’ll see how cool they really are. Deal!? 🙂

    • June 6, 2011 11:59 am

      Really? You love the way glasses look? I think you may be the only person who has ever said that. Ever!

  16. June 6, 2011 5:52 am

    But if you had 50/50 vision, you’d discover all the things Ali and Maya usually sweep under the rug! 😉 Also, I think it would take much more than a pair of glasses to make you ugly!

  17. June 6, 2011 6:14 am

    I bet you look good in glasses, but I know how you feel.

    I wear contacts most of the time, except when my allergies get really bad, and I always feel self-conscious when I’m wearing my glasses, even though I like them.

  18. June 6, 2011 6:37 am

    I wish I had 20/20 vision too but like you, Lasik makes me nervous. I mean really, lasers on your eyeballs?????? That’s just not natural.

    Have you tried switching contact solution? My eyes used to be horribly dry at the end of the day in my contacts until I switched to Clear Care solution and they are so much better since. My eye doctor said that some of the less intese solutions just don’t get enough of the gunk off. I don’t know, maybe something to try out.

    • June 6, 2011 12:00 pm

      I just bought a new solution called Bio-True so lets see if that helps. I’m currently using Clear Care but it hasn’t made a difference unfortunately.

  19. June 6, 2011 6:49 am

    I had the same problem too with contacts. It was so bad, I’d be driving and rip them out of my eyes and throw them out the car window just for relief. Get Lasik — I’m a huge wuss and it was no problem at all!

  20. June 6, 2011 6:59 am

    glasses make you look like a sexy librarian. Trust me, I would know, I hang out in libraries a lot since I dont have an ipad/kindle/social life.

  21. June 6, 2011 7:19 am

    let me preface this with: i was totally freaked out by the idea of lasik too. my fiance, husein, wanted to get it done last august and i was adamantly against if for fear of having a 100% blind husband to take care of the rest of my life (that might make me a horrible person..but whatever).

    then, without my blessing husein went on a whim to the surgeon here and that very day got surgery. we live in mexico, so no follow up appointment necessary. he came home with perfect vision. he also used to get very irritated eyes from contacts that gave him bloodshot eyes, pain and under eye circles. now he has none of these issues and has 20/20 vision. he has seriously forgetten he was every visually impaired. it really changed his life for the better, and seeing this change in him has made me a supporter of lasik.

    also, more than 20 of my friends here have had the same lasik surgery from this same surgeon and all of them are 100% satisfied, no complications. and some of them were really blind as bats. i was SO against the idea of lasik because i assumed being blinded by a laser malfunction could happen easily, but it really doesn’t. in my brain, i have put lasik in the same realm as airplanes: i don’t understand how they work, in fact the entire concept blows my mind and was at first terrified by that fact– then i started to take comfort in the fact that everyone i know has had great experiences (i’ve never met anyone unsatisfied with lasik or lost anyone in a plane crash). i’m not sure if that thought will be comforting to you or not.. but that’s my reasoning.

    moral of the story is: it is super safe, ameena! if i’m a believer, you should be too! and if you want to come visit me in mexico, it’s only $1,000 here. but i have a feeling that if you’re worried about the risks in the US you wouldn’t come here to get it. but hey, you should be comforted by the fact that even in mexico it’s extremely safe and effective! all of my american friends get it, and that says a lot.

    this is also coming from someone that loves how other people look in glasses – i adored husein’s, and i bet you look cute in yours too. however i know for the actually glasses-and-contacts-wearer the experience is not fun. so i feel for you and think you should get lasik because you actually can change the one thing you want to change about yourself 🙂 and that’s pretty freaking cool.

    • June 6, 2011 12:05 pm

      It only takes one bad story to not want to take a risk and I’ve heard 3 bad stories about Lasik! Plus there is an entire website devoted to people who have had terrible experiences with Lasik and after reading that I was terrified. Knowing my luck I’ll be one of the 0.000001% who have something to wrong. But thank you for sharing. I’m so glad that your hubby’s surgery worked out with no complications. He is definitely brave to do it on the same day!! And I feel you on the “blind husband” thing. Your honesty is pretty amazing.

      • June 6, 2011 12:58 pm

        wow!! i can’t believe you’ve heard 3 bad stories about lasik! that blows my mind since every single person i’ve ever met has had success. ugh, i totally understand your dubiousness.

  22. June 6, 2011 7:20 am

    I’m nearsighted so I don’t always have to wear my glasses, but if I did or had to wear contacts, I’d probably share your annoyances!

  23. June 6, 2011 7:21 am

    You won’t consider lasik? I’m scared too so if that’s the reason you haven’t I don’t blame you. I wish I had 20/20 too. Hubby has perfect eyes and mine are horrible!!! I’ve been in glasses since 4th grade.

  24. June 6, 2011 7:36 am

    I don’t mind wearing glasses, and think I look a bit more attractive with them on since I have such a round face, but being two steps away from legally blind is terrible. For one thing, you have limited peripheral vision. For another, the lenses gather dust and smudges all the time and you don’t notice until you’ve developed a headache. And when you go outside in summer, you can’t just pop on your fashionable shades–you have to stop whatever you’re doing, take your glasses off, store them carefully, and swap for your prescription sunglasses. Transition lenses aren’t any better, since they take 10 minutes to work, so you’re blinded by the sun when you step outside and can’t see anything for a while when you go back in. They won’t work in a car either…the windows block the UV radiation that makes them change color…so you need the prescription glasses or tacky clip-ons anyway.

    However, for all my vision woes, if I could change one thing about myself I think I’d rather be able to digest milk. I miss being able to eat whatever, whenever without having to analyze everything on my plate for potential sources of intestinal agony.

    • June 6, 2011 12:05 pm

      If I had a round face I bet I wouldn’t mind them so much but with a long and narrow face I am too conscious of them!

      Milk, really? I would avoid milk, chocolate, or whatever else if someone would just give me 20/20 vision!

  25. June 6, 2011 7:37 am

    I totally feel you on this one! I hate wearing my glasses but I hate my contact even more. The thought of getting Lasik frightens me because I have a deep fear that somehow I will come out blind from surgery.

  26. June 6, 2011 7:50 am

    I don’t have to wear glasses or contacts, but I found myself wondering that about a friend’s contacts a few weeks ago – how have they not improved them and Lasik in the last 10 years?!

    • June 6, 2011 12:06 pm

      They haven’t improved either much. Or at least in my case. But some people can wear contacts to bed! So apparently I’m the problem in this equation.

  27. June 6, 2011 8:05 am

    I so get it!!! My contacts Rx is -6, and I’m pretty much legally blind. I can barely make out the big “E” on the eye chart, but I’m not quite comfortable with a laser beam slicing my retina or however it works. So, here’s to a lifetime eyeglasses and saline solution. 😦

    • June 6, 2011 12:07 pm

      I’m a -4.25 in each eye so I can barely make out the “E” either. And I’m getting chills just thinking about something slicing my retina…

  28. June 6, 2011 8:38 am

    I wear glasses because staring at a computer screen for 12 hours a day is torture enough without contacts. But you’re right, there is no way I’m letting someone shoot a laser into my eye (unless that someone was one of the X Men and guaranteed me some kinda super power) 🙂

    • June 6, 2011 12:08 pm

      I didn’t know you wear contacts/glasses too Azmina! I guess this is a more common problem than I thought.

  29. June 6, 2011 8:52 am

    I feel your pain. I first started wearing glasses at the age of 7 and every year my vision worsened. This was also back in the 80s before they started making compressed lenses for eyeglasses so I basically saw behind a set of thick glass shells. Contacts changed things in my teens and I have been wearing them since.

    Have you tried experimenting with different brands of contacts? If you haven’t already, do discuss that with your optometrist.

    Also, just want to add to one of the comments above, no surgery is “super safe.” I have spent time in Corneal/Refractive eye surgery departments and complications do happen. It could be something as minor as blurred vision. Granted, not all the time, but you could be the statistic and who wants that?

    A lot of friends of mine have had it done and while none of them suffered any major complications one of them has a permanent halo in her line of vision. Kind of annoying, no?

    • June 6, 2011 12:09 pm

      I have tried every contact lense on the market. And I’m not kidding when I say that. My eye doctor is sick of me!

      I’ve also heard of people who have permanent halos, especially at night. I think that would really bother me.

      Thank you for sharing your professional opinion on this! It reinforces that I’m probably smart not to take the Lasik plunge.

  30. June 6, 2011 8:53 am

    Me too! I hate my glasses, yet I refuse to buy new ones so I look even dorkier. And when it’s allergy season, which seems to be year round in Santa Barbara, I’m constantly fiddling with my contacts because my eyes are so itchy!

  31. Waheeda permalink
    June 6, 2011 8:54 am

    Contacts bother my eyes too! But my optometrist told me about soaking my lenses overnight in Clear Care which helps remove deposits, and makes them much more comfortable.. Also, I am now using Acuvue Oasys lenses..which are pretty comfortable too. Maybe this might help you?

    • June 6, 2011 12:10 pm

      I have Acuvue Oasys too! Clear Care hasn’t helped at all, my optometrist suggested it as well. But I’m using a new one called Bio-True so let’s see if that changes anything.

      • June 20, 2011 11:04 am

        i’ve read most of the comments..we are in the same situation – same prescription same brand..i was diagnosed with dry eyes when i first moved to california and the doctor gave me an ointment to put in my eye nightly and some drops. this eventually worked, and now my contacts feel like nothing in my eyes.

      • June 20, 2011 5:06 pm

        I’m so glad you found a way to tolerate contacts…it gives me hope! Do you happen to remember what kind of ointment/drops the doctor prescribed?

  32. June 6, 2011 9:00 am

    Oh what I wouldn’t give to have perfect vision… it would be amazing to wake in the morning and actually be able to see before I put glasses/contacts on. I have the same problem with having a rather small face and all glasses looking a little overpowering on me. It sucks, but I’m scared to get the surgery so I put up with it or wear contacts. Maybe you should try switching brands? I wore the same ones for years without any problems, and then I switched to Acuvue because they were supposed to be amazing and after about a month I went back. Acuvue were TORTURE to my eyes… it was like having little steel plates in there. So I def. recommend switching things up if yours are giving you probs.

    • June 6, 2011 12:11 pm

      I have Acuvue right now but those are the best I’ve found so far. What brand do you wear?

  33. June 6, 2011 9:07 am

    Ameena, you’re beautiful, I’m sure you can find a lovely pair that frames your face favorably 🙂
    What is that book? Zaschen’s Paris? Looks like something I’d love to read!
    I think if I can change something about myself it would be that I would be more of a doer than a planner, I tend to have all these ideas, spend forever planning, but it takes ages for me to actually do something without having a ridiculously concise plan of how I’m going to do it.

    • June 8, 2011 8:30 am

      It’s a Taschen book about Paris that a very sweet friend in London gave me. I LOVE it. And thank you Sara for the compliment!

  34. eva626 permalink
    June 6, 2011 9:17 am

    I always wish for that
    !…maybe laser surgery…but i dont no if there is a risk or not

  35. June 6, 2011 9:24 am

    I’m near sighted as well and feel your pain…glasses make me look hideous, no matter what style they are…and contacts get dry on my eyes after a whole day wearing it – not to mention cost lots of money cause I’m wearing monthly disposal..and lasik still freak me out.

    • June 8, 2011 8:31 am

      The monthly ones are quite expensive…I was on them for a while but then realized the tiny bit more comfort doesn’t really justify the extra cost.

  36. June 6, 2011 9:28 am

    My BFF just had laser eye surgery done and she was rocking out sans glasses the next day.

  37. Lisa permalink
    June 6, 2011 9:46 am

    I have a very small face too and I actually wear kids frames.. I know it sounds funny but they have some non-kid looking styles that fit. Adult ones are just way too huge for my face!

  38. June 6, 2011 9:52 am

    Good luck with the glasses woes. I actually eschewed contacts until this year. They don’t make my eyes hurt, but I do find them slightly irritating about half the time I have them in.
    I’m not judging here, but do people really want bigger boobs?! Are we talking way bigger? Or just a size up? I always equate big boobs with back problems and very unattractive sagging things as we get older. See, now who’s shallow?
    As for the one change – I’d really like to be more intelligent. And, if I can’t have that, then a good left knee. Yeah, that would make me really happy.
    Final note – someone asked about the book. It looks awesome – I love Taschen’s publications.

    • June 8, 2011 8:31 am

      I wish I wanted to be more intelligent…but I still really want 20/20 vision. 😦

  39. June 6, 2011 9:59 am

    I’m in the same boat as you. Let’s face it, nobody looks better with glasses. I want to brave the LASIK too, I was seriously considering it last year, but chickened out after I made an appointment. I am too damn afraid. Why should I be, in this modern day and age? But I am. Maybe we should do it together and hold hands.
    *kisses* HH
    p.s. but if i could change any one thing??? My thighs, totally. Contact lenses are invisible. Fat thighs totally aren’t

    • June 8, 2011 8:32 am

      You do NOT have fat thighs. I know this for sure because I have met you HH!

  40. June 6, 2011 10:58 am

    I had Lasik almost 10 years ago. Life. Changing.

  41. June 6, 2011 11:18 am

    I’ve always had perfect vision, but lately Im noticing little things that make me thing its not so perfect anymore. Im not happy about it, and Im terrified to go to the eye doctor because I dont want to wear glasses, and contacts scare me.

  42. June 6, 2011 12:23 pm

    Oh I totally get this post. You know what the stupidest thing is? Back in high school I wanted glasses so bad that I actually got fake glasses to wear, which most likely were the reason why I now wear real glasses. Now that I have glasses, I hate them and wished I had 20/20 vision. Us humans are never satisfied. Haha. Ive really been contemplating LASIK eye surgery.

  43. June 6, 2011 12:34 pm

    I think glasses are sexy =) just sayin

  44. June 6, 2011 1:07 pm

    I’m sure you look really good in glasses! My parents both wear them/contacts and have considered Lasik, but haven’t gotten it yet.

  45. actorsdiet permalink
    June 6, 2011 1:15 pm

    i promised myself the only way i’ll ever get lasik is if i am in an action movie where i have to be underwater. otherwise, it’s contacts forever…

  46. June 6, 2011 1:37 pm

    Awwhhh, I love your honesty Ameena 🙂 I have the weirdest eyes too, sometimes I hop in the car & can’t see the end of the street – other times I can see clear as crystal to the mountains & beyond – so have to keep the trusty goggles (yep, I feel your pain sista) nearby. They feel like elephants on my face & I’m left with no other option but to embrace the glasses (even to the point of owning a bright orange pair) & later in the year will probably buy up a dozen frames “genuine copy no less” when in Asia (coz I’m too cheap to spend the real deal $!!!!! So far haven’t gone for the contact lenses…. probably won’t now that you’ve described them like that. Ick!

  47. June 6, 2011 2:56 pm

    Is anything in life 100% risk free? Certainly not putting a man on the moon. Just get lasik you will love it, then you can change other things, or not 😉

  48. June 6, 2011 4:14 pm

    I don’t blame you for not wanting to get Lasik till you know for sure that it is completely safe. Even the thought of the procedure gives me the chills. I have good vision but don’t like to wear sunglasses for the same reason. Every pair makes me look like a fly. I think if I could, I would increase my motivation to exercise. I’m not bad, I always do something, but I would like to kick it up a notch. Maybe commit to something like yoga or pilates.

    • June 8, 2011 8:33 am

      The weird thing is that sunglasses don’t bother me at all. Even the biggest ones…

  49. June 6, 2011 5:36 pm

    The idea of Lasik scares me, but I’ve known people who have had the surgery and loved the results. I didn’t have to get glasses until mid-forties, when I needed reading glasses. I don’t wear them unless I have to because I hate the way I look in them.

  50. June 6, 2011 5:42 pm

    I am not a risk taker but I would get the lasik surgery. I actually had a consultation a few years ago, but I was spending money fixing my teeth at the time. I only wear glasses to read or watch T.V. or movies. A few years ago I went to Vegas and had to have my glasses shipped overnight, cost- $30. We were going to some shows that we paid good money for, so I wanted to be able to see them!

  51. June 6, 2011 5:49 pm

    I think you may have already tried this but I’ll offer my suggestion anyways 🙂 My husband has a small face and any glasses look huge on him until he tried rimless. Rimless with a broader sides will look amazing on you! And avoid this useless suggestion, if you have already tried it! I am so sorry about the glasses situation, well, I am not even 40 and I have one for reading. I absolutely hate to wear them.

    • June 8, 2011 8:34 am

      My husband told me I looked like Sarah Palin in rimless glasses. And I think he was kind of right…

  52. June 6, 2011 7:32 pm

    We Say No to turning into Tri-Clops-es.

    I dream of the day that Lasik is 100% risk-free. Marcus tells me that I look adorable in my glasses. Even though I so badly want to believe him, I only wear my glasses at night before bed, when most of my make-up has rubbed off, my hair is a horror show and I’m wearing That Ratty Shirt.

    Let’s just pretend he really means it, okay?

  53. Leslie permalink
    June 6, 2011 8:33 pm

    Mm, if I had to change anything…. darn everything I wanted to change when I was younger I was told “You’ll be grateful someday because you’ll age better.” Doncha just hate it when Mom is right?

    I loathed my oily, thick, acne-prone skin,which now has a fairly good resistance to wrinkles. I get asked how I like botox, and I go.. botox? BB, that’s mother nature and thick Eastern European skin.

    I hated my round-face, esp when I was tormented around Halloween & called “pumpkin face.” It did not help when my front teeth were coming in initially with a space between them, just like a jack ‘o lantern.

    I wanted to be tall so I could be a model like Mom. Now I’m glad that I’m shorter than fairly every man I meet except Peter Dinklage (that’s a “Game of Thrones” joke, btw).

    I hated being smart because I got picked on. Now I’m glad I got to go to Stanford & Columbia.

    I hated being named Leslie because the girls used nicknamed me “Lesbian.” Now I love shairng the name with Leslie Caron, Leslie Mann, Leslie Bibb, and my bff also named Leslie (her hub has an interesting fantasy going on there, he jokes about).

    In short, give it enough time, and I end up not minding anything I would change.

    Right now, I wish I had never had cancer. In another decade, I’ll probably be grateful for all the lessons I learned.

    P.S. Now I really want to see you in glasses! Think: sexy librarian.

    • June 7, 2011 8:57 am

      So are you telling Leslie that even though I’m not crazy about my height and that even though I loathe my dry, acne-prone skin, I will eventually come to appreciate them? Maybe by the time I’m 85? You do have fabulous skin. I must admit I’m rather jealous of it. I’m off to Google Peter Dinklage now…

  54. June 6, 2011 9:45 pm

    I can understand you pain b’coz I went through it at a point. I was fo fed up with dry eyes fro wearing contacts all that and I went ahead and got lasik done (I got every possible test and opinion to find assess the success rate). It’s been 6 yrs and trust it’s one of the best things I feel I did.

    But I get it. it has some risks. sometimes based on ones retinal thickeness some are even adviced against it. My husband wears glasses and when I ask him to get lasik done he says he prefers to wear them to risking his eye sight.

  55. June 6, 2011 11:46 pm

    oh well I like myself with glasses. They make me look decent and “WISE” …. haha….. but I don’t think specs would look bad on you. You are a cool person in general so I am sure they will look the part. You are just being a bit self conscious I think. :D…

  56. June 7, 2011 4:11 am

    I say work the glasses…I love huge sunglasses and will always hunt down an oversize pair (very Audrey Hepburn, lol!).

  57. June 7, 2011 7:37 am

    I paid for lasiks and then wanted my glasses back to make me feel smarter….go figure, huh?

  58. June 7, 2011 8:21 am

    I know exactly what you are talking about! Actually, the flap of Lasik and potential complications from that freak me out, so I am getting wavefront PRK next week. From my research, it’s the safest option in the long run – the downside is the longer recovery time and more pain up front, but I’ll take it. I am so excited not to have to deal with glasses or contacts anymore, I can’t even describe it.

    • June 8, 2011 8:40 am

      I’m off to Google Wavefront PRK…crossing my fingers that everything goes well for you next week Alina!

  59. June 7, 2011 11:11 am

    UGH contacts!! I like them better than wearing my glasses – but what a pain!! And when they get to the point of feeling like sandpaper! OUCH!!! I would love to do the lasik thing, but I’m scared to – and I don’t want to have to wear my glasses ‘x’ amount of days before the surgery. I actually love your glasses and I know you look beautiful in them!! I have to say I have all ready changed something about myself, and it was selfish – I did the ‘boob’ thing this year – I’ve saved up, and after having 3 kids….I finally did it. I’ve worked hard getting my body in shape, and that was an area I couldn’t change…soooooo. I feel guilty at times….then again – nahhhhhh 😉

    • June 8, 2011 8:40 am

      Kudos to you for your honesty and for doing something for yourself. I think it’s awesome!

  60. June 7, 2011 11:16 am

    I am absolutely in denial about my vision. I got glasses (minor reading) glasses when I was in law school to just get glasses b/c I thought they would be a great accessory. Well, I never really used it. My eye sight after staring at a computer and reading all day have gotten worse and I finally put glasses on and realized how much of a difference it makes.

    Despite knowing that glasses make things better and that I should probably get a different prescription, I remain in denial. Because I refuse to add my eyesight to the list of things I have to change. LOLOL!! 🙂

  61. June 7, 2011 2:10 pm

    I feel the same exact way. My vision is terrible (-7.5 ick) so I’ve been thinking about Lasik for a while. But I’m not certain I won’t move my eye, even with some sort of tranquilizer and prongs opening my lids.

    I used to hate myself in glasses, too. But there are times when wearing contacts just makes me cry. Like, my eyes tear up so much I CANNOT DO IT. And I think it’s something that’s all in my head. Everyone else thinks I look good in them. I’m sure you do, too. Do you ever see a celebrity in glasses and think, “I wish I could pull it off like that?” Yeah, they probably feel hideous. How about a photo on the blog. 🙂

    • June 8, 2011 8:39 am

      I looked long and hard for a picture of me wearing my glasses but there isn’t one because I won’t allow anyone to take a picture with me wearing my glasses!!

  62. June 7, 2011 2:44 pm

    Yes, but maybe the 3rd eye would give you 20/20 vision!
    I think Ali and Wayne need to move in together. They would fulfill each other’s need to be left alone.

  63. June 7, 2011 2:55 pm

    I’d change my thighs because I’m shallow, too. Real conversation between Marcus and I:

    me: Grace (mutual friend) said I had small legs.
    Marcus: looks at me up and down and laughs.
    me: thanks.

    Him and Ali should really hang out.

    • June 8, 2011 8:38 am

      Wow. And Marcus is still alive? You are amazingly tolerant.

  64. June 7, 2011 3:44 pm

    I’ll bet you look just as gorgeous with glasses as you do without! It’s tough – smart ladies like us are our own worst critics, so that when we look into the mirror, we exaggerate the flaws (like my freckles that are, in fact, barely visible, but they look like some kind of pox to me 😛 ).

    I’m sorry to hear contacts don’t agree with your eyes, and I see in your comment reply that you’ve tried every kind out there 😦 I hope you do find a pair you like – you’d think with technology as advanced as it is, they’d have contacts that feel like nothing! In the meantime, rock those glasses with confidence!! You’ll look lovely in them! 😀

    • June 8, 2011 8:37 am

      Thank you Jessie! I believe that I am my own worst critic. This is a problem…

  65. June 7, 2011 6:04 pm

    Agree with everyone here who said lasik is the best decision. I was very apprehensive, but I got mine done at 25 and it was a miracle! I was legally blind without my glasses and now I see 20/40!!!

  66. Janelle permalink
    June 7, 2011 6:10 pm

    They can put a man on the moon but they can’t make a pair of glasses that looks good on a person with a small face?!

  67. June 8, 2011 12:22 am

    Seriously Ameena, i think you look just great in your glasses:)

  68. June 8, 2011 5:03 am

    I know exactly what you mean. I can wear contacts and I do, but my eyes hurt by the end of the day and it just doesn’t feel quite right to have little disks in my eyes all the time. So I wear glasses a lot, but if it is raining (which it does here a lot!) or I am getting something hot out of the oven and they get steamy, I just feel so cross! The thing is, I think glasses can feel uncomfortable, but that they can look great! I bet you look lovely in your glasses, however you might feel. If I am having a bad hair day (lots) they I just stick on lots of eye make up under the glasses!

    • June 8, 2011 8:36 am

      I hate it when I empty the dishwasher and it steams my glasses up. I hate it even more when Ali and Maya laugh at me!

  69. Galit Breen permalink
    June 8, 2011 6:30 am

    I hear you GF! I hate my contacts, refuse t wear my glasses and am terrified of lasik.

    For the record though, you’d be adorable in glasses. Or a third eye. XO

  70. June 8, 2011 9:07 am

    Theres always going to be something we don’t like about ourselves. I know I can name several things lol. But at the end of the day, we are unique and you are beautiful. I enjoyed this post

  71. June 8, 2011 9:40 am

    Tell me about me Ameena, i wear glasses too, every day i see myself in minor and think i look dam so bad and selecting glasses was even more embarrassing since most of the spectacles were big and i had to pick one from kids section! my bro and male friends say it just the women think ur face doesn’t change if ur wear glasses, what do they know how much different it is! i hate contact lens as well!

  72. sana permalink
    June 8, 2011 1:49 pm

    I know what you mean. when i wear glasses i also feel hideous , I get in a bad mood, and cannot do anything efficiently. sorry , I’m sure that doesn’t make you feel better. what may , is systane eye drops for dryness and irritation. they are preservative free and feel nice. good luck.

  73. June 8, 2011 1:57 pm

    Ameena, I’ve been dealing with this since 3rd grade. I have really bad eyesight and an astigmatism (sp?) and I’ve never been able to wear contacts comfortably. Lasix scares me to DEATH!! I would have eye surgery if I couldn’t see and it would allow me to, but not just for vanity reasons. I’ve heard some scary stories. I realize that thousands have the surgery and it’s just fine, but I can’t bring myself to do it. This even when my wonderful Husband Ralph, tells me how beautiful my eyes are without my glasses. They may be beautiful, but if they didn’t work anymore due to a surgery that I didn’t really need, I’d be really ticked off! You’re beautiful, with or without glasses!

  74. June 9, 2011 9:16 pm

    I had Lasik about 10 years ago & I told my doctor he was God, giving me sight; he told me to please tell his wife that! Now I need a touch up but can still see MUCH better than ever in my life and still think it was the best $ I have ever spent on myself 🙂

  75. June 10, 2011 8:48 am

    I wish I had perfect eyesight too! I used to wear contacts- started in 8th grade and wore them through high school. Then when I went to college I got lazy and barely wore them…I still went for my eye exams and miraculously, my eye sight had improved each time! Now I never wear them and I just have a bit of trouble seeing far away stuff. Also…after a few drinks I text with one eye closed 🙂

  76. June 14, 2011 10:07 pm

    I’m a -4.25 too and I find myself doing weird things to improve my vision–like eating spinach 5 nights in a row. (yeah… Did not help.) I am trying to get the courage to have LASIK done before my next trip to India because I’m scared of getting an eye infection there from putting my contacts in and out.

  77. magicofspice permalink
    June 20, 2011 12:50 pm

    Oh my dear…first off I am betting you look like one hot brainiac in glasses! I have terrible allergies and have the same problem with my contacts, and when I switched to the “special allergy type” I got the dessert eye feel too. I wear contacts for certain occasions, but all glasses almost all the time. Sure I am a bad example due to being a nerd and all, but I was also a model. So basically I have seen and been in the company of some of the most beautiful people in the world, and trust me when I say you have nothing to be insecure about. The real trick to beauty is and has always been one of the accessories that people overlook…confidence! Never compare yourself and never doubt yourself, just grow and flow 🙂 Wear your glasses my dear like it’s a fashion statement and your contacts like they are a convenience!

    • June 21, 2011 8:52 am

      Thank you for your very kind compliment and your words of wisdom. I am going to try to consider my glasses a fashion statement – I’ll do my best. 🙂

  78. June 20, 2011 12:51 pm

    Embrace the glasses. I am confident you can find a pair you love!

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