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December 16, 2010

Many of you have asked how a technology-obsessed family like mine communicates. Well the answer is not very well.  This is because…

  1. Ali doesn’t listen to me. He claims it’s because he has a “genetic hearing problem” but I think the real issue is that what I have to say is simply not as interesting as whatever info his laptop/iPhone/VCU/Blackberry is churning out.
  2. I don’t listen to Ali. This is because when he finally tears himself away from his laptop/iPhone/VCU/Blackberry for a few seconds, I am too annoyed to talk to him.
  3. Maya won’t stop talking. On the very rare occasion that the stars are aligned, timing cooperates, and Ali and I actually have a moment to converse, we simply can’t get a word in edgewise.

So how do two people who occasionally need to communicate manage to do so? Well it’s simple – we utilize the wonderful world of text and instant messages.

This particular IM was sent from our living room - approximately 12 feet away from my office.

Laugh all you want! But the truth is that not only is this method extremely convenient and efficient, it also provides a written record of what was said! This means that one can always revert back to the text/IM history when one need to prove one did or did not say something. And I’m sure I don’t need to point out that this happens often around here.

The only drawback? When Ali finally files for divorce I fear my records can be subpoenaed…

64 Comments leave one →
  1. December 16, 2010 12:15 am

    Oh boy- I would be way too scared of the written record being used against me to do that!

  2. December 16, 2010 12:22 am

    Ah it is too much romance for one morning daaaahling LOL. Still I guess its better than what I do: screaming. Hubbs is always downstairs playing on his silly x box and I am always at the top of my lungs trying to get him to hear me from upstairs amongst all the “killing” noises.
    *kisses* HH

  3. December 16, 2010 12:27 am

    When you figure out the magic of getting a young child to hush up (other than Nyquil ;-)) please let me know. I have many teacher friends that would pay good money for those magic beans.

    Hubby and I have seriously IM-ed eachother from the same couch. To our defense, the holy terror was asleep on said couch and we weren’t going to even risk waking him up. So instead we argued (silently) over who was going to be the lucky one to move him to his room. Parents of the year 😉

  4. December 16, 2010 3:29 am

    LOL. You’re not alone is using this form of communication. Of this I’m sure. 🙂

  5. December 16, 2010 3:54 am


    Yeah- since i started to blog, Rita is teasing me about laptops has taken over her slot of time spend .. she is got annoyed yesterday lol.

    I’m trying to persuade here to blog something too.


  6. December 16, 2010 3:54 am


    Yeah- since i started to blog, Rita is teasing me about laptops has taken over her slot of time spend .. she is got annoyed yesterday lol.

    I’m trying to persuade here to blog something too.


  7. December 16, 2010 4:10 am

    This is hilarious. I try to commnicate with my Husband via email or texts, but somehow he seems to “not get them” unless the message is: “PTA had a cookie exchange today – bringing home lots of goodies!”

    He sure got that one real fast.

  8. December 16, 2010 4:29 am

    Too funny, Ameena! I wonder if Ali and Mike are long-lost twins. Too often I’ll be in my study and he’ll be in his (which is in the next room) and he’ll IM me, lol!

  9. December 16, 2010 4:39 am

    Oh my, the wonderful world of “new-age Marriage” :).

  10. December 16, 2010 5:06 am

    I don’t even like to talk on the phone anymore. Text me, or risk not hearing back from me at all. Your choice.

  11. December 16, 2010 5:20 am

    hahahah! too funny!

    i’m like amy though: i don’t like to talk on the phone at all. sometimes i’ll get a call, not answer and the person will immediately text me and i’ll immediately respond. so they know i’m with my phone but i’m just not answering hahah. oops.

  12. December 16, 2010 5:20 am

    You are definitely not alone in this. Some days my husband and I gchat more than we actually talk. It’s kinda sad now that I type that out! 🙂

  13. tra permalink
    December 16, 2010 5:34 am

    I LOVE IT! lol. me and my sister do that all the time.

  14. December 16, 2010 5:38 am

    Hey, I get it! Teaching my dad how to text message changed our relationship. No joke.

    And thank you so much for your comment on my blog the other day. It’s so great to know I have the support of this wonderful community!

  15. December 16, 2010 5:49 am

    I wonder how men can come up with “genetic” problems like these. My husband develops random allergies just because he does not want to do something..Men!

    And the chat thing, well sometimes I am cooking and he is in the office and because he wants water without moving he’ll IM or text his full time nanny (Me!) to do that!

  16. December 16, 2010 6:14 am

    When my husband’s sucked into his phone or iPad or computer, I’ll email him to get his attention. It’s the easiest way to get a fast response. Talking just gets me “mmm” or “mumblemumble.”

  17. December 16, 2010 6:39 am

    I hate to email, text or im but i was left with no choice, my husband responds best to those than to my voice.

    it will be ali who has has to be careful about the records. i mean husbands are too lazy to even remember what the wife said, leave alone searching the records. but all the wives have an inherent talent to remember every single thing, well. i feel blessed to have that.

    Thank you for visiting my blog. it’s encouraging.

  18. December 16, 2010 6:50 am

    “mayas sing thing”. so cute! you guys are funny but hey, whatever works!!

  19. December 16, 2010 7:24 am

    “Maya’s sing thing”….so descriptive, aren’t they?!

    And I gotta admit, I’m jealous. The stars never align just right over here for Tater to be quiet for more than about 15 seconds.

  20. December 16, 2010 7:29 am

    Heh, this makes total sense. The hubster and I send each other emails all the time. I forget what they say right after I read them so the written record doesn’t help me at all. Maybe texting is the way to go? The constantly pinging reminder should be good.

  21. December 16, 2010 7:45 am

    You are a genius. That is all.

    This must solve SO many “were you in the same conversation I was in?” issues.

  22. December 16, 2010 8:29 am


    I love it!

    my husband and I are in the ESP mode so IM is not necessary.

    last night I came home and he was paying a bill on-line …freaking because he couldn’t log in and remember all the questions we put in to prove it’s US and that kind of thing. I was catching up with JJ and I looked at him, he looked at me and I said “Pizza?”

    He shook his head. I was JUST GOING TO SAY THAT.

    so it saves me some typing.

    WE text a little…I guess we are old fashioned still in that area. (SHEW one thing) but we are often all logged in to our respective devices: Xbox, iPad, iPod, and now our new blu-ray player has wi-fi so one of us is streaming something on netflix at the same time.

    I say things like ‘thingy-majigger” and so the “sing thing” makes me laugh.

  23. December 16, 2010 8:35 am

    That’s so funny! But hey…whatever works. I am actually still amused that hubby and I are facebook friends. it took us a while to do that. every now and then for one reason or another we will message each other through that and be in the same house and it’s just funny! what would we do without technology. oh….talk. in person!!

  24. December 16, 2010 8:39 am

    YOur blog records will be at least 😉

  25. December 16, 2010 9:18 am

    We talk through text all the time. WE do this even when we at home and in different rooms. When we are tired after a long day at work, and at the edge of getting annoyed with each other (which is like often. Alright like everyday) talking though chat is like a blessing. hehe

  26. December 16, 2010 9:22 am

    love it! exactly how we communicate in our household too 🙂

    i like how he calls it a ‘sing thing’. lol.

  27. December 16, 2010 9:50 am

    I would FAR rather talk to my boyfriend via instant message than in person sometimes. It would just be easier.

  28. December 16, 2010 10:15 am

    Hahaha! I should start communicating with dear hubby this way. He’s always denying he said something!

    Thanks for stopping by my blog today! Much appreciated! Small world, too!

  29. December 16, 2010 11:10 am

    Haha I do that with my boyfriend all the time when we are studying:)

  30. December 16, 2010 12:00 pm

    Oh that goodness for texting… I don’t think my marriage would survive without it. Especially when I get to let him know, in advance, that he’s being a d-bag and should come with (or if hes home, come up with) something nice to say/do or i’m going to pout. It also prevents me from having to him pout when said name-calling takes place.



  31. December 16, 2010 12:11 pm

    You really are too funny 🙂 Whatever works. You look very fancy and professional using that spreadsheet behind the IM!

  32. December 16, 2010 2:09 pm

    Hahaha Ameena you crack me up!

    Dan and I talk through text and G-chat quite often. I agree that the record is always a helpful tie breaker of the game ‘who said what’ and more importantly the response time doesn’t kill me as much as his silent moments when I ask a question in person. 😉

  33. actorsdiet permalink
    December 16, 2010 3:15 pm

    abe and i have been guilty of this as well. however, he once did a documentary about computer geeks and since two of those “subjects” admitted to doing this, we try not to do it too often. so we can’t call ourselves “geeks.”

  34. December 16, 2010 5:04 pm

    We email a good bit. IM takes me back to the days we used to wile away the hours typing to each other in college. I’m just not that interesting anymore.

  35. December 16, 2010 5:05 pm

    fyi read every single one of your posts…but I dont comment all the time cause I’m usually either dying from laughing or taking marriage and mom tips from you…you know…for the lawyers.

  36. December 16, 2010 5:34 pm

    Ha!! Adam and I do the same thing, except we use the intercom system on our home phone set to talk to each other when someone’s upstairs. And we can usually hear each other through the stairwell…

    Whatever works 😉

  37. December 16, 2010 5:37 pm

    I think lots of people communicate this way now! I love email! But, ya, there is that “written record” part of it… Hmmm…

  38. December 16, 2010 6:42 pm

    Ali- such a sweet-talker!

    We use email constantly. We will be sitting on the couch next to each other:

    Derek: Can you call Mary to arrange for pet sitting?
    Deb: Can you send me an email to remind me?
    Derek: Sure
    Deb: Thanks.

    That’s our life. Actually with gmail, it’s FABULOUS because if there’s ever a question about anything, you just search one word you know was in the email and boom. It’s there.

    PS I forgot to mention last post I LOVE LOVE LOVE your highrise viewsssss!

  39. Leslie permalink
    December 16, 2010 6:44 pm

    I think it’s fun to text someone in the same room. Am I lame? I saw this definition today …a geek is someone who’s IQ is higher than their weight. Oopsie! Time to lose weight if I don’t want to turn in my GurlGeek kard.

  40. December 16, 2010 7:15 pm

    loveeeeeee it.
    i liked the person’s comment above htat said “this is too much romance for one morning”
    i find it SO much easier to communicate with my fam via email/text (cept that my mom takes a good 10 minutes to write a five-letter-word via text), taking the emotions out of conversation can definitely come in handy.
    oh and um its so cold here right now Ameena. You’re crazy to wish you were here instead of in sunny CA.

  41. December 16, 2010 10:34 pm

    Thankfully, my parent know no technology. They barely know how to get to my blog and they have no idea how to text message either. I usually don’t save my IM files, but now I can see why they would come in handy! 😉

  42. December 17, 2010 3:48 am

    Love this! The husband and I normally communicate via text 😉


  43. December 17, 2010 8:26 am

    This post cracks me up because I totally get it. While my fellow and I do converse in really life, we often use the “sticky note” option on my Mac to communicate.

    Also, thanks for coming out of “lurkdum” to visit my blog! Your comment was too cute!

  44. December 17, 2010 10:56 am

    Haha, I love it. That is awesome that there is always a written transcript of how the conversation really went down.

  45. December 17, 2010 11:47 am

    Oh sweet lady! I will admit that we’ve *so* done that! Unfortunately, I also have to admit that I was not clever enough to use texts, etc as proof! Or ammo! Well done, lady! I totally learned my “something new” for the day right here! 🙂

  46. December 17, 2010 8:21 pm

    Yep, we do the same thing. He texts me, e-mails me, IMs me and we’re in the same house. Sometimes he even calls me on the phone from downstairs. I do the same. It’s the new “not yelling throughout the house” thing.

    Regarding #3, buy the jumbo size bottle of aspirin. I do and it’s helped tremendously.


  47. December 17, 2010 10:14 pm

    “Sing-thing” I love it! This is exactly how Ryan and I might interact if we had a young one. I have found that Ryan can be quite sweet over text messages…I still struggle with remembering to respond. Poor guy is often left without a word from my end for hours! Thanks for sharing, sweet woman. I’m liking your new blog header!

  48. December 17, 2010 11:19 pm

    I will at least give you and Ali credit for saying “hi” before getting to the point. There’s hope for you yet! 🙂

  49. Kath (Eating for Living) permalink
    December 18, 2010 5:45 am

    Clear case – a technology obsessed family communicates via technology! 😉

  50. December 18, 2010 7:28 am

    Ever since my bf got an iPad he hasn’t been listening to me either so 1. & 2. are happening here too 😀

  51. December 18, 2010 7:35 am

    I was going to say, with the written word, you can always prove what they did promise 😉

    Thank god Maya is mastering the art of conversation at an early age. When in doubt, just bulldoze your way over everybody else.

  52. December 18, 2010 8:31 am

    Because you make me laugh so much and share such a wonderful glimpse into your family, I’ve given you an award. You just have to head to my post to claim it. Thanks for blogging!

  53. December 18, 2010 9:37 am

    As much as I love face to face conversations, I tend to go towards the technological route most of the time. Right now, I’m trying to convert my mom to the world of text messages and IMs. Let’s just say it’s an ongoing process.

  54. December 18, 2010 12:14 pm

    LOL rolling on the floor here with tears.
    my husband and I communicate better when we’re apart from each other through phone and text msg’ing. is it marriage? before marriage we just wanted to lose the phone talk and live together so we can communicate more and now……?? lol

  55. December 19, 2010 7:01 am

    This is funny! I think having more written records could be an advantage for me! My boyfriend forgets everything I say.

  56. December 19, 2010 7:45 am

    Despite your request, I totally laughed reading this! My husband and I have a similar relationship! 🙂 Except any silent time is filled up with TV. 🙂

    I love that you have pie graphs behind your chat screen.

  57. December 19, 2010 9:50 am

    Oh my gosh, you’re hilarious!! I have to say, I often text my husband with important info b/c 1.we just didn’t have time to talk or 2. the kids were too loud to talk over

  58. December 19, 2010 10:27 am

    I say…whatever works! 🙂

  59. December 19, 2010 12:59 pm

    Hilarious and so true! I communicate with my son on skype even if he is at home or in Europe, thousands of mile away! As for a husband, I don’t have one anymore, that solves the problem!

  60. December 19, 2010 5:56 pm

    Not alone with this one Ameena 🙂 Love a good IM convo 🙂

  61. December 19, 2010 6:26 pm

    Haha, gotta love technology 🙂

  62. December 21, 2010 11:20 am

    We are a technology family too…only way to go 🙂

  63. December 24, 2010 12:27 am

    Despite your request, I totally laughed reading this! My husband and I have a similar relationship! 🙂 Except any silent time is filled up with TV. 🙂 I love that you have pie graphs behind your chat screen.

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