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September 30, 2011

Sometimes I sit around and think of witty things to put on my Facebook page – simply because seeing someone “like” something I wrote kind of makes my day.

What? You think that’s sad? Hmmm.

You mean you don’t love it when people “like” the fact that you just checked into California Pizza Kitchen or Bloomingdale’s or Best Buy? (Naturally this would be Ali). 

You don’t feel special when they comment on the fact that you ate a Carmelized Peach Salad or bought some jeans or purchased a new adapter for your iPad2? (Ali. Again).

You don’t feel like a million bucks when someone compliments your new profile picture or gives your clever status update the thumbs up? Or what about when it’s your birthday and your wall is so full of happy birthday wishes that you literally “feel the love?”

I love it when my husband publicizes what a dedicated wife I am for all of Facebook to see.

Alright then, maybe it’s just me. Maybe my carefully cultivated Facebook page and I are in need of a social-media intervention, the same way my husband needs a Best Buy-intervention. Maybe. Or maybe not?

All I can say is getting my kicks from the 10-15 minutes I spend on Facebook every day is cheaper and more efficient than paying a shrink to tell me I’m a fabulous human being. 

So please feel free to like/comment/retweet/share away. And I’ll do the same for you.

122 Comments leave one →
  1. September 30, 2011 12:37 am

    Lovely picture awwwwwww:-)

    Ok the I LIKE and really LIKE this article 🙂

    Keeep smiling…

  2. September 30, 2011 2:07 am

    I LIKE!! 😉

  3. September 30, 2011 2:28 am

    Haha, it’s the same with me, I love to be “like”‘d on facebook. 😀

  4. September 30, 2011 4:11 am

    There may be a silent fist pump when people “like” something I say.

    The little things are important for my well-being. You’re so right.

  5. September 30, 2011 4:38 am

    Is that all I need to cure me?
    What have I been thinking
    Note to self: must spend more time on FB and less time on psychiatrist’s couch 😉
    Unforch…my husband refuses the FB so I must get my golly comments from random men…I mean they’re my friends…but still 😉

    • September 30, 2011 8:51 pm

      You should definitely try it Kimberly – FB is the best and cheapest therapy ever. And any compliment is better than no compliment – doesn’t really matter who it’s from!

  6. September 30, 2011 5:10 am

    Okay, one of the reasons I was really excited to post about my pregnancy on FB was because I knew I’d get a lot of likes and comments. Ryan posted about it at the same time, and he got MORE likes and comments– I was a little pissed off, haha. 🙂

    • September 30, 2011 8:51 pm

      I’d be annoyed by that too – does he just have more FB friends? That’s the only explanation?

  7. September 30, 2011 5:29 am

    Also, a sweet post like that from your husband is cheaper (and more publicly visible!) than a bouquet of flowers. It makes you both looks good. That Ali is a genius.

    I’m glad I’m not the only one that likes to be liked.

    • September 30, 2011 8:52 pm

      Ali is a genius – plus he knows that I am not into flowers. At all!

  8. September 30, 2011 5:47 am

    That was a fabulous way to start the day! What a great shout-out from your husband!

  9. September 30, 2011 5:57 am

    The best is when you post something and people just keep commenting. It’s like FB Christmas.

    • September 30, 2011 8:52 pm

      FB Christmas! I feel like today is FB Christmas!

  10. September 30, 2011 6:02 am

    You are not alone! I love it when people “like” my FB pictures, comments, statuses…the more “likes” the better!

    • September 30, 2011 8:53 pm

      I had a feeling I wasn’t alone and that maybe I was the only one who would admit it! I’m glad you are on the same page. 🙂

  11. September 30, 2011 6:09 am

    Lol- true its the small things like likes and sharing moments that make the difference. Great post!

  12. September 30, 2011 6:12 am

    I LIKE 🙂
    As much as I like it when people like my status in the FB, I like it even more when people leave their comments.. it’s kind like an ego booster.. 😉 Have a great weekend!

    • September 30, 2011 8:54 pm

      I LOVE the comments but I try to get too greedy. The “likes” are sufficient for me. 🙂

  13. September 30, 2011 6:22 am

    I’ve totally checked to see if someone liked something…and sometimes if i upload something or write a status and nobody likes/comments – i delete it! haha

    • September 30, 2011 8:54 pm

      I’ve been so tempted to do that but I haven’t yet. I love the honesty!!

  14. September 30, 2011 6:25 am

    It’s so great that Ali was thoughtful enough to do something like that AND to thank you for all the world to see, well. all of the FB world anyway! Very sweet. Oh, yes…I LIKe YOU, and your posts. So there!!

  15. September 30, 2011 6:40 am

    I get a total thrill when people like my FB post or comment and I feel a bit rejected if my post sits there with no attention. Which I suspect might mean I need to get more of a life and not use FB as a litmus test of my importance. 🙂

    • September 30, 2011 8:55 pm

      I totally agree…and yet I keep using FB as a litmus test (love the high school science reference btw).

  16. Leslie permalink
    September 30, 2011 6:57 am

    Arghhh, too much food porn at 630 am – I’m craving a carmelized peach salad right now. BTW, Ali’s breakfast looks like a photo out of the deceased-but-missed Gourmet magazine. Maybe a spread on Early Morning Urban Starts. Faaaar above the streaking red and white lines of car lights streaming, Ali Din hovers above the cacophony with his steaming mug in hand. Laid out in front of the soaring window is a repast, lovingly prepared by his ever svelte, ever sweet & sexy wife Ameena. Organic, vegan, and arrayed with an eye inspired by Helen Frankenthaler’s color field works of the late 1960’s, Ali digs in……….

    See too much yummy looking food, and, to quote Whitney Cummings, I’m all “uber cray-cray.”

    • September 30, 2011 8:56 pm

      Leslie – we must hit CPK and have the peach salad. You will not be disappointed! I’m off now to Google Helen Franenthaler….

  17. September 30, 2011 7:11 am

    Going over to Like you now. 🙂

  18. September 30, 2011 7:13 am

    I love when people like anything on my facebook. I always feel so proud of how clever I am. 🙂

  19. September 30, 2011 7:17 am

    Haha oh Ameena, I’m the same way (and I have to say I am very flattered every time you ‘like’/comment on something of mine…you’re a role model of sorts to me; and i know you’re going to respond being puzzled how that can be true etc, but I love your wit/writing style/sense of humour/and YES parenting skills)!
    But with that said I love coming up with some sort of clever (in my mind at least) thing to say/post and see who ends up responding 😉

    • September 30, 2011 8:57 pm

      I’m so touched to be your role model. Seriously. That means SO much because I think you are fabulous Sara!

  20. September 30, 2011 7:42 am

    I’m the same. I’m actually having to wean myself off of facebook a bit!

    • September 30, 2011 8:59 pm

      10-15 minutes a day is the magic FB number…it’s just enough but not too much!

  21. September 30, 2011 7:42 am

    What really irritates me is when someone wants me to “like” their Facebook page just because they’ve “liked” mine. If I want to like someone’s page, I’ll do it on my own time because I respect that person and his/her writing!

    On a totally different topic that has nothing to do with anything you’ve written, or even that I’ve written, want to “like” my Facebook page?

    I’m totally kind of joking. *Insert smiley face emoticon with a wink here*

    • September 30, 2011 9:02 pm

      I just liked your page…it’s the least I could do!

  22. September 30, 2011 8:11 am

    dude, you are quite the chef. i didn’t think you plate your husband’s breakfast so well. you make me look and feel bad. i don’t even give him breakfast. 😦 and your home/apartment ( i can’t tell) looks soooooooooo nice. i love the floors and the view.
    yes, i too, love comments and likes on my status.. it makes me feel so cool and happy! 🙂 have a fabulous day ameena!

    • September 30, 2011 9:03 pm

      This happens once or twice a year…this time it was in honor of Ali’s birthday! So really, don’t feel bad.

  23. September 30, 2011 8:18 am

    Does liking this post count?

    • September 30, 2011 9:04 pm

      Absolutely. Every little bit helps with the self-esteem. Every. Little. Bit.

  24. actorsdiet permalink
    September 30, 2011 8:19 am

    i don’t just like you, i love ya!

  25. September 30, 2011 8:41 am

    I’m sure you’ve seen how well my hubby portrays me on FB. I’m surprised I still have friends. Whatever, crazy and proud of it! 😉
    This reminds me, I really need to block him. And what d’ya know…not only do I get to block him outta my real life, now I can do it in the virtual one. Ha!

    Dang, girl! If I “like” you, will you make me that breakfast too? That looks really delicious! Ok back to my pathetic Mini Wheats. But just for the record, you know I don’t just “like” you, right? I luvssss youssss! Teehee. Have a wonderful weekend, my dear! 😀

    • September 30, 2011 9:05 pm

      Can you really block your hubby from FB? Real life is easy but FB is a whole different story. 🙂

  26. September 30, 2011 8:48 am

    I’m not so popular on face book. I’ll post something and I can literally hear crickets. So, I don’t do it too much these days but I definitely enjoy checking out everyone else’s posts. Awww…what a good wifey!

    • September 30, 2011 9:05 pm

      Somedays I hear crickets too. Those are not good days.

  27. September 30, 2011 8:50 am

    Hey…I already “liked” your page for a while now.

  28. September 30, 2011 9:30 am

    If I was on facebook, I’d totally comment all over your page daaaaaahling, but alas, Moi knows very few people so its not worth me setting up a page.
    Anyways, I like you a lot in real life, so I hope that counts 😀
    *kisses* HH

    • September 30, 2011 8:49 pm

      HH – That counts for even more than a FB “Like.”

  29. September 30, 2011 9:48 am

    Me “Like” to the power of infinity! I could not imagine writing about such feelings, put in a such a simple way. That is why you are special. And Ameena I did not say this to save you a trip to the shrink.:) I did becoz i meant it!

    • September 30, 2011 9:06 pm

      I feel like a zillion bucks right now…thank you Soma!

  30. September 30, 2011 9:55 am

    ha ha…yes I’m with you on the facebook thing 😉 “LIKE”

  31. September 30, 2011 10:00 am

    I have to admit that the majority of my comments (the real me comments) are geared toward my mother so she can keep up with what Dudette’s doing. Anyone else that notices and comments on that stuff does make me feel good, but I keep my eye out for my mom’s comment and “likes.”

    That being said, even if I forget to like your stuff, know that 90% of the time I call Hubby over and read it to him out loud because it makes me giggle so much.

    • September 30, 2011 9:07 pm

      You are the best MC – no explanations needed. 🙂

  32. September 30, 2011 10:43 am

    Ha, it’s all in the instant gratification of someong “liking” a post. It’s the same for pinterest. I realize that someone repinning my photo (one that wasn’t even mine to begin with really) is pretty inconsequentail. But…it makes me pretty happy.

    • September 30, 2011 9:08 pm

      Pinterest intrigues me but I simply haven’t found time to jump on that bandwagon. One of these days…

  33. September 30, 2011 11:35 am

    Major “Like”!!!

  34. September 30, 2011 12:55 pm

    commenting on your blog doesn’t make you feel “liked” enough? It’s all so silly but sort of fun too. Of course the converse- nobody commenting or tweeting or liking can ruin my day. Pathetic I know. And I pay a shrink too.

  35. September 30, 2011 1:03 pm

    It’s so funny that you bring up bday wishes on facebook. As a facebook dropout I felt so bad when I was on my account about my class reunion and I noticed all these bday wishes from 6 months prior. Whoops. I don’t really understand facebook.

    • September 30, 2011 9:10 pm

      I don’t really understand FB either, especially after their massive overhaul this week.

  36. September 30, 2011 2:11 pm

    You kidding! I love it .. who doesn’t like a little more love in real world or virtual. 🙂

  37. September 30, 2011 2:18 pm

    Anyone who does not like the “like” does not belong to the FB era! That is such a great shout out by Ali!

  38. Janelle permalink
    September 30, 2011 5:39 pm

    I overthink every.single.thing I post on facebook, and definitely stress when nobody comments/likes my post…aah, the stress. All worth it for the gratification of positive feedback, right? Great share by Ali!

    • September 30, 2011 9:11 pm

      I overthink too and it can get stressful! But when something hits…the payoff is worth it. 🙂

  39. September 30, 2011 6:03 pm

    The caramelized peach salad sounds amazing! I’m not on Facebook much anymore, but I used to be. Doesn’t everyone like to be liked?

  40. September 30, 2011 8:47 pm

    Couldn’t agree more…love to be liked! How nice it is to be validated for all the world to see. But, only 10-15 minutes a day? I’m afraid to time myself on FB…;)

    • September 30, 2011 9:12 pm

      Seriously, try it one day…it’s more than enough time!

  41. September 30, 2011 8:50 pm

    Just read your blog about fb. I still like fb too and find it cathartic and fits my budget lol 🙂

  42. September 30, 2011 9:46 pm

    Haha I totally just tweeted this because I feel like I wrote it! Blog comments, Facebook likes/comments, being tweeted at–> I thrive on all! Maybe that makes me shallow but it makes me happy :)! I’m glad someone else agrees with me!

  43. October 1, 2011 12:43 am

    If only there was the “like” button 10 years ago – perhaps I wouldn’t have needed so much therapy. Actually, I take that back, I probably would have needed more. It’s almost sick how “likes” can make a day… and how I can feel close to friends through FB from around the world, simply by reading there updates. Oh technology, I love thee. (But not as much as Ali.)

    Here’s to many more “likes” in our futures! 🙂

    • October 1, 2011 8:06 pm

      Nobody loves technology as much as Ali. He takes pride in that.

  44. October 1, 2011 2:34 am

    Haha Ameena the “tags” at the top of this page just made my day. But very true! I’ll never forget the first time someone commented on my blog – I literally squealed with joy. Sad? Maybe. But I don’t care!

    Ps. I just “liked” you on FB 🙂

    • October 1, 2011 8:07 pm

      I was right there with you…squealing away at my first comment. I felt like a zillion bucks.

  45. October 1, 2011 6:33 am


  46. October 1, 2011 12:06 pm

    Not going to lie..I love the comments on things! About to “like” you:) haha.

    • October 1, 2011 7:58 pm

      I didn’t know you have a page too! I just “liked” you back.

  47. October 1, 2011 1:16 pm

    I kind of feel like Ali owes it to you to take your show on the road. Birthday breakfast is an affair that is NOT to be trifled with 🙂

  48. October 1, 2011 1:56 pm

    Hmmm, you’ve almost convinced me that it’s worth it to actually pay some attention to my facebook account. I think I last updated about my life and my whereabouts a few years ago. Apparently, I’m somewhere in Montana on a road trip with all the favorite men in my life. That is actually a lot more interesting/exciting/appealing than my ‘real’ life, so maybe I’ll stick with it?

    • October 1, 2011 8:09 pm

      I had my doubts Kristina but Ali was right…I’m so glad I jumped on the FB bandwagon. It’s fabulous for a number of reasons, including keeping in touch with people AND feeling like a million bucks. 🙂

  49. October 1, 2011 5:54 pm

    Hellll no you aren’t alone! I’m a megalomaniac with self-confidence issues so Likes totally make my day.

    That’s such a pretty breakfast you made Ali!

    • October 1, 2011 8:10 pm

      Megalomaniac…I think that’s my new favorite word.

  50. October 1, 2011 6:37 pm

    I definitely like when people “like” me!

  51. October 1, 2011 7:51 pm

    Ah! I almost missed this post because it did not show up on fb. I like all your posts 🙂

  52. October 1, 2011 7:57 pm

    No different than enjoying the comments you get on a blog post. Why shouldn’t you like having status updates like or birthday wises on your wall? Community, including on-line community, feeds us.

    • October 3, 2011 9:16 am

      I don’t discriminate…comments/likes/wishes…I love them all.

  53. October 1, 2011 8:07 pm

    Don’t we all love this?!? It’s in our human nature. It’s probably one of the top five reasons I blog – publicity.

    • October 3, 2011 9:17 am

      Honestly, until now I thought it was just me who loved the attention. The comments on this post make me feel otherwise!

  54. October 2, 2011 1:26 pm

    I am still having comment issues.

    but I LIKE THIS

    I had a better comment.

    way better.

    plus I love best buy too.


    • October 3, 2011 9:17 am

      You and Ali should hang out at Best Buy together. No really, it’ll be a HUGE time saver for me!

  55. October 2, 2011 4:02 pm

    I’m the same way about Facebook so it is definitely not just you! They’ll make a new psychology text book about folks like me and you! Hopefully we will at least get a cover photo credit or something good out of the deal…

  56. October 2, 2011 5:36 pm

    Goodness, it’s one of the main reasons I blog! Lord knows I don’t always get the love from my family but the blog/facebook – always. 🙂 LIKE you loads girl!

  57. October 2, 2011 10:53 pm

    I “like” you and I like you 😉 Always 😉

    I agree…there is something magical about people liking your comments or blog posts, etc. I feel like I did good in the world when I get a lot of Likes! LOL


    • October 3, 2011 9:19 am

      “I feel like I did good in the word…” Absolutely! I second that.

  58. October 3, 2011 9:28 am

    Okay that breakfast does deserve a Facebook spotlight! I never update my FB status. I have my posts from my blog published on my FB page. I feel like since I’m silently asking my “friends” to read my blog, it is too much for me to ask for their time on my status. Do I need to work on my self esteem or what??

  59. October 3, 2011 11:10 pm

    i am totally with you. i love when people “like” my stuff of facebook~it’s the same as getting excited about a blog comment! it’s great knowing people appreciate what you’re doing!

  60. October 5, 2011 4:29 am

    Facebooks needs a “love” button to do justice to that wonderful breakfast you made for Ali. 🙂

  61. October 5, 2011 4:29 am

    (I’m hopping over to fb now and see what I can do.)

  62. October 6, 2011 7:01 am

    You’re a fabulous human being Ameena!

  63. October 8, 2011 5:37 pm

    Oh, there is a whole bunch of like going on for you Ameena, I tell my friends here in Australia about your blog, and how fabulous I think you are. And, I’m with you, my day is made if I get a bunch of comments and love from my cyber buddies. 🙂

  64. October 11, 2011 8:37 pm

    Well, I like you and that’s is why I keep coming back. It is true, the likes and comments gives me the “high”. Recognition is a basic human needs so we are just being human!

  65. December 17, 2011 1:50 pm

    Actually, your thoughts on how Facebook “likes” improve your well-being has inspired me for a research project probably conducted soon! 🙂

  66. March 8, 2012 3:29 pm

    Ha Ha. Just remembered a status message I read sometime ago. Something on the lines of … “If Facebook shuts down, will I see people on the streets showing their pictures & asking ‘do you like this’?” 😀
    I like, no, love, getting thumbs up & comments. Especially if I post something the night before, the first thing morning I want to check are my notifications. 😀

    • March 8, 2012 4:53 pm

      I am totally laughing at that visual right now! I love it. 🙂


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