Comments on: I Told You So

By: Jeena

Jeena — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 09:42:23 +0000

Hey Ameena, I love your mom. She’s just the best advice giver – I wish I could meet her.

I am the worst judge of character. I don’t see the obvious signs of flaws. And invariably get bitten.

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A Granola Kind of Day « Fancy That…Fancy This — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 17:33:25 +0000

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By: Priyanka

Priyanka — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 14:03:22 +0000

I am really sorry you feel this way. I am not a good judge of character but I am naturally a very un-trusting person. I can never completely trust anyone except my husband,parents and brother. I take my time to form opinions about somebody.

Although I feel really bad that you are hurt, as your Mom rightly said at least you are not the one who is doing anyone any wrong. Not the best position to be in, but guilt will not consume you.

Don’t be disheartened and think about it too much!

By: tiffanie @ healthy happenings

tiffanie @ healthy happenings — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 13:05:05 +0000

Hey sweetie! I totally get you. I’m the same way. I am WAYYY more the optimist when it comes to people than my husband. He sees the “true” side of people immediately. He has this gift of discernment that I just do not see. I have rose colored glasses on.

BUT with that said…I feel like I’m a much happier person because of it. Sure I may get hurt from time to time. But that’s a risk I’m willing to take so that I don’t miss out on other opportunities with people that I’d be missing otherwise!

Chin up friend. You know who your true friends are!

By: sophia

sophia — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 05:33:36 +0000

Oh Ameena, I’m so sorry. I understand the hurt and disillusionment you feel right now. It sucks, because it’s not just a betrayal by someone you trusted, but a dejection in the nature of the human being.

But…In my experience, it is still better to be trusting, than to be always suspicious and cynical. I guess we just gotta build a tough skin, and be able to stand such disappointments…but at the same time, don’t label everyone as selfish and self-motivated, because you might be losing a precious relationship because of that, and that kind of negativity will only poison your mind and your relationships with people.

By: Tricia

Tricia — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 03:34:34 +0000

That just plain sucks. Glad you have a supportive family to help you through.

By: Kris | iheartwellness.com

Kris | iheartwellness.com — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 03:10:38 +0000

Who could treat such a sweet person like yourself this way? I am so sorry to hear this! I would be the same way – laying awake thinking it over and over again.

I guess if you look at it like something better is always to come out of something negative, you can be excited for that?

I wish you all the luck!

XXOO

By: monicaonthego.com

monicaonthego.com — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 02:26:06 +0000

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By: fittingbackin

fittingbackin — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 02:04:01 +0000

wow… I hate that this happened to you. I feel that i’m naturally suspicious and think people will do the worst oftentimes, but yet, I can’t help but be nice. I get burned a lot. Ask my mother! haha This really did ring true and yes, your mother knows you best, and yes you CAN’T and SHOULDN’T change who you are just because mean people suck. Hang in there and take care, girl! I’m thinking about you – I know how disappointed you must be. boo.

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 01:58:01 +0000

i think i do a decent job of judging character. i usually give people the benefit of the doubt and give them some time. i refuse to beleive that people would intentionally do wrong. i just can’t live like that. maybe this makes me naive, but whatever. i just dont want to be like that.

great post!